Mona
If you still don’t know what a sapiosexual or sapiophile means, you get a clean chit for having never hovered the lanes of online dating! Six years of Tinder, brand new Bumble, trending Tantan or happening Happen — dating apps are the new buzzword.
Fun, flirty, funny - a picture sure speaks a thousand words, but if it’s a right swipe that you are aiming at, a short, snappy bio sure holds some weight. Sapiosexual, a slang that was written off back in 2017, still exists as does ‘no hook up’ stance or freshly added ‘demisexual’.
Words that matter
Having the right picture or bio increases the chances of right swipe, phenomenally. A study pegs the success rate to get talking to potential dates at a mighty 87 per cent, if one’s bio is ‘funny’. “To craft a funny bio that actually attracts women, we recommend combining misleading humour with a hint of confidence,” tips dating expert Chris Calo. Something like, “People are getting married, having kids; I am fighting my dog for dinner. Single life, always keen to chat.”
Swift swipes
According to social network Badoo, ‘6 ft’ in the bio is the biggest hit with women. ‘Love’ is the word men pay most premium to when looking for women online. The 10- word list of the most successful profiles has music and gym common for both men and women looking in a potential mate. Men have a higher chance of getting matched if their bio uses the phrases that give a semblance of someone to build future with like — family, dogs, dinner, beard, travel, relationship and car. Women, on the other hand, fetch more right swipes if they show an indication of being open to drink, coffee, beer and being a foodie. If six-feet height is the catch for women, men look for girls with ‘blue’ eyes!
Been there, done that
Now that the height or colour of eyes is not something one can make up, one can always play smart, opines young musician Bash (Bharat). His tried and tested formula is to say something cheesy like ‘I believe in making life interesting not tinder bio’; ‘I’m not flirting. I’m just being extra friendly to someone who is extra attractive’.
What works, definitely
“Being genuine is the first plus,” vouches post-graduate student Eva Bhatia. A poet, literature lover and writer... is what her bio reads, and she did match many over this shared love. “Not that literary types are not creeps,” she warns, but common interests are best ice-breakers.” Her tip to men wishing to date online, “Be a gentleman. Give time to know and to see if the two of you are the right fit before taking the leap.” Also, run a spell check, ‘Not looking for fake or ‘immotional’ people is harakiri!
Bound to fail
It doesn’t take more than a look to know one’s intentions on online dating apps. “Semi-naked or nudes or towels wrapped around showing off or rippling abs — an instant giveaway that all the man is looking for is one-night stands,” shares Rachita, an IT professional. Looking for fun?, adventurous, open-minded — in dating jargon pinpoint to all that in bed; you may wanna leave that out! Directly to the point (proverbial ‘hooking up’) offers, yes, those that are aplenty and pretty gross, wouldn’t get many swipes.
However, some clichés work without fail — a man chopping vegetables in kitchen still works. Throw in the words — family, dogs, dinner, travel, relationship – fat chance to be right swiped!
Learn tricks of the trade
Knowing some jargon helps. Check out:
- Sapiosexual/ sapiophile: Someone sexually attracted to intelligence before appearance.
- Demisexual: Someone who puts a strong emotional connection as precursor to sexual attraction.
- FBO: When you take the plunge to be Facebook official.
- Tindred spirit: Chatting to someone just as drunk as you.
- Tindiscreet: Gang of girls playing Tinder while howling with laughter.
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